About the author: Paul Tripp
About the book: Parenting
Since I am listing the fourteen gospel principles, I am only going to share a few quotes. Which is rather difficult, because there are so many to choose from.
“Good parenting is about becoming okay with the fact that you are powerless to change your child… our job is simple; it’s not to create change, but to be the humble and willing instruments of change in the hands of the one and only author of change.” p. 62
“You will not be punished for your failure. You will fail as a parent. You won’t always have the right reaction, you won’t always say the right thing, and you won’t always do what’s best. It’s important to remember that the One who sent you is not only your sender, he is your Savior, and his cross means you do not have to hide in shame and you do not have to be paralyzed by guilt, because Jesus paid the penalty for every moment when you fail as a parent. Since you do not have to fear God’s anger in moments of failure, you can run to him for help and receive his forgiveness and help. Basking in the comfort of God’s forgiveness then makes you able to own your weaknesses and confess them not only to God, but to your children’s well.” p. 188
Paul Tripp is a prolific writer who has specialized in writing about relationships. I have read two other books by Paul, Age of Opportunity and War of Words (I highly recommend both.). This book succeeds Age of Opportunity, and if I understand correctly, he wrote this book to address issues and questions that arose after Age of Opportunity. Paul transparently writes about his own experiences and shares wisdom that has taken years for him to learn. I really appreciate his transparency. It must be difficult writing about his own failures, considering that he specializes in relationships. Readers could easily judge him, some probably do. I admire him.
Parenting is the best book that I have ever read on the subject. Paul writes about so many different real parenting scenarios and failures. Every parent will be able to relate to an experience that Paul writes about. While reading the book I became fully aware that my struggles are not unique to me. It was liberating to read about other families, other struggles, and then read about biblical solutions to problems that I face on a regular basis. Temptations, technology, and teens have evolved so much since I was a teenager. It is nearly impossible to ask advice from someone who raised children twenty years ago; our world has changed so much. Parenting is timely, I highly recommend this book. Every parent who wants to fight for the soul of their child should read this book (every year). And Paul has a cool mustache. (smile now)
Parenting contains fourteen chapter, the gospel principles, and they are:
- Calling-Nothing is more important in your life than being one of God’s tools to form a human soul.
- Grace-God never calls you to a task without giving you what you need to do it. He never sends you without going with you.
- Law-Your children need God’s law, but you cannot ask the law to do what only grace can accomplish.
- Inability-Recognizing what you are unable to do is essential to good parenting.
- Identity-If you are not resting as a parent in your identity in Christ, you will look for identity in your children.
- Process-You must be committed as a parent to long-view parenting because change is a process and not an event.
- Lost-As a parent you’re not dealing just with bad behavior, but a condition that causes bad behavior.
- Authority-One of the foundational heart issues in the life of every child is authority. Teaching and modeling the protective beauty of authority in one of the foundations of good parenting.
- Foolishness-The foolishness inside of your children is more dangerous to them than the temptation outside of them. Only God’s grace has the power to rescue fools.
- Character-Not all of the wrong you children do is a direct rebellion to authority; much of the wrong is a lack of character.
- False Gods-You are parenting a worshiper, so its important to remember that what rules your child’s heart will control his behavior.
- Control-The goal of parenting is not control of behavior, but rather heart and life change.
- Rest-It is only rest in God’s presence and grace that will make you a joyful and patient parent.
- Mercy-No parent gives mercy better thane who is convinced that he desperately needs it himself.
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