I am sharing a lot of Scripture. To keep it short I am only scratching the surface, maybe some day I will elaborate. I hope that you are helped and encouraged in some way. I am trying not to lecture or sound preachy. I assure you; I am writing to myself.
My brethren, be not many masters, (We shouldn’t be to eager to tell others their faults; we all make many mistakes.) knowing that we shall receive the greater condemnation. For in many things we offend all. If any man offend not in word, the same is a perfect man, and able also to bridle the whole body. Behold, we put bits in the horses’ mouths, that they may obey us; and we turn about their whole body. Behold also the ships, which though they be so great, and are driven of fierce winds, yet are they turned about with a very small helm, whithersoever the governor listeth. Even so the tongue is a little member, and boasteth great things. Behold, how great a matter a little fire kindleth! And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity: so is the tongue among our members, that it defileth the whole body, and setteth on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire of hell. For every kind of beasts, and of birds, and of serpents, and of things in the sea, is tamed, and hath been tamed of mankind: But the tongue can no man tame; it is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison. Therewith bless we God, even the Father; and therewith curse we men, which are made after the similitude of God. (Created in God’s image) Out of the same mouth proceedeth blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not so to be. Doth a fountain send forth at the same place sweet water and bitter? Can the fig tree, my brethren, bear olive berries? either a vine, figs? so can no fountain both yield salt water and fresh. James 3:1-12
James reminds readers about the destructive nature of the tongue. Wild beasts can be tamed, but the wild tongue is pure evil. How is it possible for us to bless God one moment and curse men the next? James writes, these things ought not so to be. Once again, similar to Paul, there is a parallel. James tells readers what is wrong and then gives instruction on what is right.
Who is a wise man and endued with knowledge among you? let him shew out of a good conversation his works with meekness of wisdom. But if ye have bitter envying and strife in your hearts, glory not, and lie not against the truth. This wisdom descendeth not from above, but is earthly, sensual, devilish. For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work. But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be intreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy. And the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace of them that make peace. James 3:13-18
Corrupt communication and strife is not heavenly behavior, it’s not kingdom behavior, it’s devilish behavior. We can experience and demonstrate wisdom from above. Our character can include peacemaking and gentle speech. In fact, over time, it can become easier for us. When we live in the reality of our own forgiveness, and when we fully reckon that Christ has treated us gently and without partiality, then we can express what God has done in our lives toward others. We simply become conduits of God’s grace, mercy, peace, and tenderness. By nature we are not peacemakers (obviously!). The good fruit produced in and through our lives is sown by the Spirit of Christ. We cannot produce our own fruit; we have not sown the seed. It is not a matter of will power, remember no man can tame the tongue. The Spirit tames the tongue. We need to prepare the soil of our heart and allow the Spirit of righteousness to produce peace.
Father, draw us to your word so that our hearts can be prepared for your Spirit. We want you to sow the seed of righteousness and peace in our hearts. We need Him. Without his work we know that we cannot tame our tongues. I am tired of offending others with my mouth. Deliver me/us.